June 20, 2010
My grandfather would say from time to time, "What you are doing is speaking so loudly I can't hear what you say." At such moments, his tone of voice indicated no question as to the priority in significance he was assigning my behavior.
If we want people to hear us--both our verbal and nonverbal communication--we must speak from a platform shaped by congruence between saying and doing accompanied by an earned credibility.
I wonder: is the untimate significance of what we do determined by this complex congruence with who we are, and the resulting credibility (or lack of it)?
Aristotle wrote, "We are what we repeatedly do."
Considering the doing/being dichtomy in this way can produce some sober self-assessment. However, with due respect for the great philosopher, I'm still not convinced that the relationship between the two can be stated this simply. I'm even less convinced that this idea, at least as Aristotle phrased it, provides hope or incentive for change.
What do you think?