Sunday, January 6, 2013

Wine or cheese?--Maybe. People?--Not so much

January 6, 2013

Dear friends,

Thank you for your generous notes of support and encouragement during this last small adventure.

And thank you, Lori. You kept the weekly deadline of my blog faithfully while also keeping your own. Your sharing was a gift to all the readers. And your sharing was a great comfort to me. I liked knowing that those who read and think with me weekly were continuing to think and read with you. Their privilege. My blessing.

As you all know, via Lori’s communication, after a brief over-night hospital stay, I spent the two weeks before Christmas in a Rehabilitation Facility. The experience provided significant new learning for me.

It provided a loss as well. I lost—permanently—any illusions that, like some distinguished types of cheese and wine, I might mellow and improve with age.

Not so.

I am thinking that the best I can do—or the best any of us can do, as a matter of fact—is simply to do what we can do with what we have left at this time of life. And—whatever the paradox of doing something out of emptiness—the life-long challenge remains the same: the decision to come with strength and integrity to our task whatever our limitations of resources may prove to be.

I am ambivalent about setting the content of the blog for the next few weeks.  Writing about a pre-Christmas stay in a skilled nursing facility has stories for many blogs, perhaps even for a small book. But I am uneasy about your potential response.

Wondering if you might, like me, prefer to begin the year with "happily-ever-after" stories.

How much discomfort is truth worth?

See you next week,



  1. Welcome back, Gay. It has been a delight to "get to know" Lori, but it is wonderful as well to hear from you again. I have missed you! And am very grateful that you are well enough to be home with many stories to tell. I, for one, would rather have the discomfort that comes with truth, but mine is only one vote! Maybe the question is "Do you need to tell the stories?"

    I agree with you (and Joan Chittister) that we do the best we can do with what we have - whatever we have. And what you have done in my life as well as the lives of others, has been profound. Heal well.


  2. Dropping a note to say I completely agree with Debbie's comments above